They were great though. JT was able to come to the meeting too, which helped me feel less on the spot, and they said that ultimately it was our decision because we know things about The Dude that they do not. I definitely was second guessing myself in this whole process, but still, my gut was telling me to go with our original decision. When we walked out of the meeting, having told them we would tell them our decision on Monday, JT and I both looked at each other and immediately said we still wanted to hold him back.
The most important thing to me is that The Dude enjoys learning at this point. The assistant principal suggested intensive practice over the summer, and that went totally against what I know he needs. This summer he needs to play outside, he needs to build things and play games, and listen to me read stories that he enjoys, and help out around the house, and explore interests he doesn't have time to during the school year. We'll still work on the sight words and the reading, and keep plugging away at trying to write his name correctly, but I have no interest in torturing him all summer. He really does have a great attitude despite his difficulties, and I would hate to burn him out at the age of 6.
I am still not exactly sure how we are going to have a play date without his brothers around driving him crazy, but hopefully we can make it happen. He's a sweet kid, as Aquaman's friends always are. He thinks fidget spinners and fads are dumb too, he loves Legos, and he ties with Aquaman as the "2nd fastest running 2nd grader in the school", which is apparently very important.So far, summer has been pretty laid back. The boys have spent hours playing magnet tiles, legos, and board games. The board game thing is totally new and exciting for me, because Aquaman has never played board games before, he was always too afraid of losing to play. A couple days ago, he had some bad luck initially during Minion life, and I thought for sure he was going to quit or at least do a lot of complaining. His eyes filled with tears and he turned around to regain his composure and I heard him say under his breath "it's just a game. No big deal." When he turned back around, The Dude's eyes filled with tears too, and he started hunting through the pile for "good cards" to give to Aquaman. Aquaman ended up winning. But I was much more impressed with his finishing the game.
These sorts of things might seem little to a lot of people, since they are things that usually happen earlier, but I have appreciated a lot of little victories with Aquaman, since they have been accomplished late. Plenty of things he has accomplished early...walking, talking, academic achiements...but as a Christian, his character and moral development matter much more to me than those things, and it has been yet another reminder to me that kids develop at their own pace, and often a variety of different paces.
The Christian counselor we brought him to last year reminded us: "just because he is incredibly smart and can have an adult like conversation with you, and just because he has been saved, does not mean that his moral development is advanced too. You can't expect to be able to reason with him morally like you would with an adult."
Motherhood is such a growing experience.
"being confident of this, that he who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus."
It is such a reminder to just keep going. It may feel like you are getting nowhere, but one day you wake up and they get something you thought they would never get.
"Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up."
|There is something about a 3 year old hearing the word don't....|
|He couldn't resist.|
I will finish with captions because I am tired and I need to get dinner started. One more week of maternity leave. We are going to cram a lot of fun into it!
|Greystoke and Papa putting his Paw Patrol puzzle together at K and I's birthday party.|
|Greystoke gets really into his building....and Scarlett loves the movement of the swing. Probably because I never sat down when she was inside me!|
|We have and will spend a lot of time here this summer! Scarlett and I find the shade!|
|My girl and me.|
|Greystoke's pose on his last day of school. Threenager!|
|Too hot for the park now....we lasted like 10 minutes.|
|This guy is an awesome brother, even though he is totally bored by his baby sister.|
|This guy is not bored in the least. He is quite enchanted actually.|
|And I am enchanted by the journal he brought home from school even though his teacher had to interpret...|
|No words necessary. Angel baby.|
|Her first big smile. We were talking about her brothers.|
|Before school let out I took Greystoke and Scarlett for one last not chaotic zoo trip.|
|These cherries were worth every penny. They were so busy pitting and eating them that I got to take a shower in the middle of the day.|
|Ready for summer. He won't eat watermelon any other way...|
|I love her.|
|She has lost some hair up top but still quite shaggy in the back, poor thing. She doesn't seem to mind though.|
|Two of my favorites. Greystoke went to the beach with me on my birthday.|
|Last gymnastics practice!|
|They are both getting so strong.|
|4th child tummy time. Someone put toys on her back and then left...|
|They all saved their allowance the whole school year and went shopping the 1st day of summer.|
|This guy loves his books most of all.|
|Cold day at the pool for Florida boys....|